Miscarriage/Infertility:What they want us to know.

Last week I shared 20 things women who are struggling with infertility and miscarriage want you to know. I encourage everyone to read that post because chances are very high you know at least 1 person who is dealing with those things. (Read it here)

Today's post is the reverse, these are things that friends/ family want someone who is going through infertility/ miscarriage to know. I feel this is important to share because when you are going through infertility or loss of a pregnancy it can feel so lonely. It seems as though nobody understands or nobody cares. Seeing these things really helped me to understand that my friends/family DO care and they want to help they just don't always know how.

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10

Again these were the most common answers that I saw on Carissa Barzee's Instagram Story. I encourage you to go check it out because it is incredibly powerful. I also want to say that if you are currently struggling with infertility or pregnancy loss, please know that I am praying for you. I am here if you need an ear, don't hesitate to reach out.

1. I don’t know if I should talk about it or avoid it

2. It’s all new to me. I try, but I can't fully understand it

3. I don’t know what to say. I try to love and support you

4. It’s hard because I don’t know when you want to talk about it and when you don’t

5. I can see the sadness in your eyes and I am heartbroken for you

6. I feel guilty for being able to get pregnant when I know you are suffering with infertility

7. I’m sorry for thinking or asking, “when will you have babies?” I know it’s not always by choice

8. I want to help you, I just don’t know how

9. Having never experienced what you have it is impossible for me to understand the magnitude of the pain you feel. I’m so sorry

10. I try to say things to “be positive” but I know that’s not always what you need. I’m just trying to help

11. Knowing I will never be able to say the right thing is really hard

12. I’m sorry for comparing you and your journey to mine/ someone else's. They are all so different

13. It’s hard because I feel like you are pushing me away.

14. It’s hard to know what to ask about your journey because I don’t want to upset you but I do care.

15. It’s hard to be pregnant when my friend is struggling to conceive or just lost their baby.

16. My heart hurts for you.

17. I don’t know what to say or do. I don’t know when you need me there and when you need space.

18. I really wish I could take your pain away

19. I’m heartbroken with you. Every time, I’m shattered. I wish I could take away your pain and sorrow.

20. It’s hard to share my pregnancy excitement because I don’t want to hurt you

I have been amazed at the out pouring of love I have received since I started sharing about this topic. I never thought that so many people would be touched just by me sharing my story. So many women have reached out and told me their stories and struggles and I am so thankful for that. I know that it is an incredibly hard thing to go through and I want to just say once more that I am praying for you and I am here for you.